Overcoming Adversity

So I wont lie, this week I ran into some serious writer’s block. For starters, I’m still trying to figure out which kind of content my viewers want to read. Although I am a NURSE, and this is going to always be my main audience, I do realize that I do not only have nurses on this journey with me. I have young girls, guys, moms, doctors, makeup artist’s etc. that tune into what I have to say. To say the least, the main goal of my blog was to speak on all things nursing and lifestyle and at the very least, shed some motivation. But most importantly, I want to be a source of information for you guys because there have been so many times in my life where I was looking for a source and your girl couldn’t find one. So after two expressos’ over ice with 2 pumps of cinnamon dolce in a venti cup from Starbucks, I decided that I was going to talk about something: Adversity

Can I tell you that I haven’t realized how good I was at handling adversity until I had to reflect on all of the things that I have really overcome? But isn’t that how it always is? While you’re currently going through something you never feel like you’ll make it out alive. I’m here to tell you, that overcoming adversity is one of the hardest things to do, but you will overcome it sis. Cliché right? But I’m serious.

Change your mindset

It is so so so so so so so hard to remain positive. TRUST me girl, I KNOW. If you ask anyone that knows me, I am the biggest pessimist around town and it has taken some time for me to start thinking positive, and it's still a work in progress. But, when you change the way you think, things become so much more fruitful. You know how they say you are what you eat? You are what you think to sis! So do whatever you have to do to remain positive. Whether you're repeating that nursing test for the 5th time, or its your 3rd job in the past month or you’re just having a shitty week-Positivity is the beginning to overcoming adversity.

Believe in yourself

You have to be your biggest fan because only you know yourself inside and out. You know your thoughts, you know your strengths and you know your weaknesses. You know what you're capable of and what you’re not, so how are you not going to believe in yourself sis? You are not defined by your challenges, so don’t allow your mind to inflict any self doubt on you. The mind can be such a dangerous thing. Instead, think about that time life threw you lemons and you made lemonade…believe in yourself love.

Your response

It wasn’t until recently that I realized your response to adversity is everything. I say this because your response to adversity, no matter how small or large will determine how well you will prevail. When I had my first run in with a difficult situation, I probably spent three weeks being upset, unmotivated and down in the dumps. I gave up on many things, let go of many things, and tried to pretend that certain things didn’t happen. What a waste of time! I’m not saying, be some type of a machine who lacks feeling and emotion, but what I am saying is get into the habit of practicing certain habits…..aka change your response. Recognize adversity and know that you have to overcome. See adversity and look past it. Look for the better days sis, they are there.

Overcoming adversity leads to resiliency. It’s a beautiful thing to be resilient. Being resilient means that you adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, and tragedy. Maybe it’s the fact that I am an ER nurse at heart or maybe its because I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth, or maybe its because nothing I have was ever given to me, but let me let you in on something, I am resilient AF! And you can be too!

I hope this post was able to help someone. Feel free to email me ; nursememi@aol.com even if you just want to talk. Catch me on Instagram @ __thewallflower for more insight.

I love you guys so much !

Nurse Memi